Masculinity as an abstract thing is complicated, but my masculinity is easy. It's the comfortable place where my clothes fit me, even when they don't fit. For me, it means a tendency towards simplicity, groundedness, and earth tones. It means getting dirty and playing rough and changing the oil on my bike. But, it also means tenderness and littleness, too, a dependency on my family and sweet gentleness for my loved ones. Sometimes it's the grunting of a workout or the bruises from getting fucked. As a boy who dates other butches, I think masculinity is sexy and full of friction, both in the give and take.