Gender and I have had a long journey; I've never really known where I fit in (honestly, I don't care to). I relish in both of my feminine and masculine sides. For a long time I thought I needed to be one or the other typically defaulting to the more masculine. I felt shame that I was so sensitive and not quite as “tough” as my more masculine presenting counterparts. To my friends I present as bit of a dapper old gay man. I don't know where my gender fits in or really what my “masculinity” means to me but I love that at 35 I’ve figured out how to exist in a world as myself feeling no shame for how I chose to present outwardly. I strive to make others feel comfortable in their skin (no matter what size, color, shape) and challenge all gender binaries. I think it's important to show all sides of the masculine and feminine within in the queer spectrum.