New York, NY.
When asked to reflect on what masculinity means to me, I am compelled to note that, while celebrating the many iterations of queer masculinity and representing ourselves the way we want to be seen, it is crucial that we also recognize that masculinity, like maleness, is inherently privileged within our society. This is particularly important to remember for masculine queer folks like me who were socialized female and/or feminine and carry around quite a lot of internalized misogyny and femme-phobia. As we cast off the gender roles imposed upon us since childhood, we must remember that we seek to reject the violent imposition and maintenance of gender roles based on sex assigned at birth; we do not reject femininity. Furthermore, as we carve out space to be our authentic selves, we must recognize how much harder it is for transfeminine folks to do the same. We must work to resist the denigration of femininity and make our communities safe for all kinds of gender expressions. If you want to learn more about doing this important work, this article is a good place to start.
I really feel spectrum of masculinity and femininity within me - both are integral to my identity. What queerness has given me is an ability to identify as feminized masculine rather than masculinized feminine (think fey boy rather than butch woman). As a very noticeably gender nonconforming person, I experience a lot of street harassment, most often people calling me a faggot. This loaded word is one I've really been able to reclaim as a key part of my gender identity - that playful, swishy, flamboyant, tender boy-ness is fundamental to who I am. My gender is button downs and bow ties, it is booty shorts and glitter, it is tight fades and pompadours, it is Harry Styles and River Phoenix, it is loose hipped flouncing in the park and purposeful striding on the subway platform, it is handsome and beautiful and evolving every day.